Dr. Larry's "Doing Your Best"

This week we have a great post from Dr. Larry that discusses the importance of doing our best.

Doing Your Best

Your best is always good enough, because it comes from you, and you are always good enough.

We often come into contact with the idea that our best isn’t good enough, as if this were actually possible. If you examine this notion, you will begin to see that it doesn’t make much sense. Your best is always good enough, because it comes from you, and you are always good enough.

You may not be able to deliver someone else’s idea of the best, but the good news is that’s not your burden. You only need to fulfill your own potential, and as long as you remain true to that calling, and always do your best to fulfill your purpose, you don’t need to expect anything more from yourself.

It’s easy to get tangled up with the idea of trying to be the best—the best parent, the best employee, the best child, or best friend. If we try to be the best, we run the risk of short-circuiting our originality because we are striving to fit into someone else’s vision of success.

In addition, if everyone is striving for the same outcome, we lose out on creativity, diversity, and visionary alternatives to the way things are done. On another note, there is nothing wrong with wanting to improve, but examining where this feeling comes from is important because wanting to be better than others is our ego coming into play.

Letting go of the tendency to hold ourselves up to other people’s standards, and letting go of the belief that we need to compete and win, doesn’t mean we don’t believe in doing the best job we can.

We always strive to do our best, because when we do we create a life free of regret, knowing we have performed to the best of our ability. This allows us to feel great personal satisfaction in all of our efforts, regardless of how others perceive the outcome.

Dr. Wayne Dyer's "Are You Aging or Sage-ing?"

This week we have a great piece from Dr. Wayne Dyer that discusses the importance of our mindset when growing older, the differences between 'aging' and 'sage-ing.'

Are You Aging or Sage-ing?

by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Recently I participated in an interview for a documentary on the subject of aging. “Is 60 really the new 40?”  It reminded me of a class I took in college where we explored the theory that what you believe about aging, your expectations, will determine what your experience of aging will be. Do we have to accept the notion that aging must involve deterioration of body and mind? I’ve always said that I will never let an old person into my body. That is, I don’t believe in “thinking” old.

Although I’ve transitioned through many bodies—a baby, toddler, child, teen, young adult, mid-life and older adult—my spirit is unchanged. I support my body with exercise, my mind with reading and writing, and my spirit with the knowing that I am part of the Divine source of all life. Don’t program yourself to break down as you age with thoughts that decline is inevitable.

On October 8th, one of my greatest role models will celebrate her 85th birthday. The beautiful, vibrant, sprightly, wise, and witty Louise Hay. Louise has been celebrating her life ever since she discovered at around 40 years old that your thoughts can change the way you experience things. Want more happiness, peace, joy, health, love, and abundance in your life? Think on these things.

Louise says, “I return to the basics of life: forgiveness, courage, gratitude, love, and humor.” Using these principles in the form of daily positive affirmations, it is possible to program your thoughts and transform your life. We are connected to a Source of infinite love within that we can use to heal our lives and help others do the same. Louise teaches mirror work—looking at yourself with love and gratitude always. Giving back, moving ahead, loving life, learning, and growing—this is Louise’s program for a long and happy experience here on this earthly plane. At almost 85, Louise is in the midst of the kind of active and vital life that comes from being hopeful, grateful, and ready to smile.

Happy Birthday, Louise, and many more to come!

Dr. Larry's "Promoting The Positive"

Have you noticed the shift in recent times toward cynicism and negativity?  This week, Dr. Larry Markson discusses the importance of stressing the positive and uplifting.

Promoting The Positive

by Dr. Larry Markson

We always have the option to not participate in negativity or to find a way to create a positive direction instead.

Sometimes we start out with the best intentions to think and speak only positive thoughts, but the people around us throw us off course. Not everyone fully understands the power our thoughts and words have, or even if they do, they may be stuck in old patterns of negativity.

Much of our habitual communication takes the form of complaining and criticizing, and it can be hard to find a way into certain conversations without lapsing into those old habits. However, we always have the option not to participate in negativity or to find a way to influence the situation in a positive direction.

In the right company, you may even be able to directly acknowledge the fact that things have taken a negative turn, thus freeing yourself and others from the negative pull.

Not everyone will respond to your cues, and there’s no need to become overly attached to the idea of changing other people, because people have to choose for themselves how they will be in the world. Many people choose negativity because it is familiar to them and feels safe.

It is important to give people the space to find their own way, but you can always set an example, subtly representing the power of being positive. At times you may interject an affirmative statement into the conversation, and at others you may simply change the subject. You may also simply withdraw your energy and presence, which also makes a subtle statement. If you feel comfortable enough with somebody that is always negative, perhaps you can have an honest conversation with them; after all, awareness is the first step to change.

A powerful way to free yourself from the negative pull is to enlist allies who are similarly minded. You and a friend, coworker, or family member may agree to work together to continually shift the energy in a situation in a positive direction.

The power of two people working to promote the positive is exponentially greater than one person working on their own. As you and your allies work together to lift the energy around you, you will be amazed to see how quickly the positive pull begins to draw people into its orbit, freeing one mind after another from negativity into light.

Dr. Wayne Dyer's "Forgive Yourself"

This week we have a great post from Dr. Wayne Dyer that explains how we can forgive ourselves and the benefits that will result from this.

Forgive Yourself

by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

A recent caller to my radio show told me that although she could forgive other people easily, the hardest thing to do was to forgive herself.  In thinking about this very common problem, here’s what you have to consider: Everything that you’ve done in your life up until this moment, you had to do. The proof of this is that you did it!

Everything you did is over now. You can’t take any of it back. In The Rubáiyát of Omar Khayyám, the poet says, “The Moving Finger writes: and having writ,/ Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit/ Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,/ Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.”

The fact that we can’t erase the past says something to us. We are called on to forgive ourselves, to honor what is past, to love and respect it. Look back and say, “That’s what I needed to do, that’s the person I needed to be at that time in my life. I did that, and I’ve learned from it. Now I can move on.”

Take the present moments you have now and use them in joy and love—not in anguishing over what you should or shouldn’t have done or how you weren’t good enough. You were the person you were supposed to be then so you could become the person you are now. You needed to do the things you did in order to find out how you didn’t want to be. Rather than cursing the past, bless it and forgive yourself entirely. When you know that all of those experiences were a part of the divine design of your life, you can afford to forgive.

So many things that I did in my life, I look back and think that I would never do those things today. And yet all of my past actions have contributed to helping me be the man I am today. Say to yourself, “I had to be that person and I’ve learned from him (or her).” Forgiving yourself is every bit as important as forgiving other people. You did the best that you could, given the conditions of your life, and you can’t ask any more of yourself or of anyone else. Forgive yourself and welcome love back into your life. When you can do this, a kind of balancing occurs. Rather than atoning for sins with guilt, you are more committed to promoting joy and service. You will begin to do what you originally came here to do.

Dr. Larry's "Fog"

Have you ever had one of those days, or phases, when you feel as if you are constantly thinking 'what am I doing?' or 'what am I supposed to be doing?'  Everyone has probably experienced this at least once before and in the short post below, Dr. Larry Markson discusses a way to alter our mindset when we encounter this phenomenon in order to better handle these moments of 'fog.'

Fog

by Dr. Larry Markson

When we feel muddled and unfocused, unsure of which way to turn, we say we are in a fog. Similar to when we are in a fog in nature, we may feel like we can’t see where we’re going or where we’ve come from, and we’re afraid if we move too quickly we might run into something hidden in the mists that seem to surround us.

Being in a fog necessarily slows us down by limiting our visibility. The best choice may be to pull over and wait for the murkiness to clear. If we move at all, we must go slowly, feeling our way and keeping our eyes open for shapes emerging from the haze, perhaps relying on the taillights of someone in front of us as we make our way along the road.

By and large, most of us prefer to be able to see where we are going and move steadfastly in that direction, but there are gifts that come from being in a fog. Sometimes it takes an obstacle like fog to get us to stop and be still in the moment, doing nothing. In this moment of involuntary inactivity, we may look within and find that the source of our fogginess is inside us; it could be some emotional issue that needs tending before we can safely go full steam ahead.

Being in a fog reminds us that when we cannot see outside ourselves, we can always make progress by looking within. Then again, the fog may simply be teaching us important lessons about how to continue moving forward with extreme caution, harnessing our attention, watching closely for new information, and being ready to stop on a dime.

We cannot predict when a fog will come, nor can we know for certain when it will lift, but we can center ourselves in the haze and wait for guidance. We may find it inside ourselves or in a pair of barely visible taillights just ahead.

Whether we follow the lights out of the fog, wait for a gentle breeze to lift it, or allow the sun to burn it away, we can rest certain that one way or another, we will move forward with clarity once again.

Dr. Wayne Dyer's "An Airport Parable"

This week we're sharing a great little story from Dr. Wayne Dyer.  He recounts a trip where his flight from New York was delayed for 7 hours and how the peace of one fellow passenger has inspired him in similar situations for years to come.  This one's good!

An Airport Parable

by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

In 1982 I went to Greece to run in the footsteps of Pheidippides, the original marathoner who ran the twenty-six-plus miles from Marathon to Athens in 490 B.C. to carry news of the Greek victory over the Persians. I was part of a big group of runners who were gathered at JFK Airport when we learned that our plane’s departure would be delayed by seven hours. The place became one gigantic collection of grumblers, complainers, and agitated people who now had to decide what to do for the next seven hours.

Amid this chaos was a little old Greek lady, perhaps in her eighties, all dressed in black, who proceeded to take a seat and close her eyes with a smile on her face as if she were meditating. I walked around the Olympic Airline terminal for two hours and then wandered back to the departure area and there sat the little old Greek lady, as peaceful as could be, still in the same position.

I then took a cab to a movie nearby and returned to the airport three hours later, and the little old Greek lady still sat in her peaceful manner. Eight hours after the original departure time we all boarded the plane. The little old Greek lady sat across the aisle from me. She smiled at me as we sat down, and then, believe it or not, for the next thirteen hours, the duration of that flight across the world, she never moved once. She didn’t eat, drink, get up, watch a movie, complain, stir—nothing but sit in the same position as in the departure area, with the same contented look on her face.

Finally, almost twenty-two hours after we had arrived at JFK for the flight, we landed in Athens. As we left the customs area, I noticed the little old Greek lady in black being met by her family. She laughed, took out gifts for the many children who awaited her arrival, hugged everyone, and was in an animated, high energy, joyful mood as she left the airport.

Almost 30 years have passed and I have never forgotten that little Greek lady, even though we only exchanged a smiling glance. Every time I observed her, I noticed that I felt more comfortable, more at ease, and less inclined to be upset. Her silent statement impacted all those who observed her in a way that seemed to relax everyone. To this day, whenever I am involved in a similar delay situation, I recall that little old Greek lady all dressed in black and remind myself of how to enter a mind field of peace.

Our thoughts are a field of energy cycles, a mind field, and just by our thoughts alone we impact not only ourselves but those around us as well. The little old Greek lady was able to spread an invisible energy of contented bliss to all of us on that flight by doing nothing more than sitting and thinking. Obviously, she resonated her inner calm to all of us.

Dr. Wayne's "Dream and You Shall Become"

This week we have another great post from Dr. Wayne Dyer that discusses the importance of dreams and how they can help you to achieve your goals.

Dream and You Shall Become

by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

True imagination is not fanciful daydreaming; it is fire from heaven.

— Ernest Holmes

One of the huge imbalances in life is the disparity between your daily existence, with its routines and habits, and the dream you have within yourself of some extraordinarily satisfying way of living. Buried within you is an unlimited capacity for creation that’s anxious to plant seedlings to fulfill your dreams and your destiny. The absence of balance between dreams and daily routine can reveal itself in symptoms of depression, illness, or anxiety—but it’s more often something that feels like an unwelcome companion by your side, which continually whispers to you that you’re ignoring something. You sense that there’s a higher agenda; your way of life and your reason for life are out of balance. Until you pay attention, this subtle visitor will continue to prod you to regain your equilibrium. When you live your life going through the motions, it may seem to be convenient, but the weight of your dissatisfaction creates a huge imbalance in the only life you have now. It shows up when you’re sound asleep and your dreams are filled with reminders of what you’d love to be, but you wake and return to pursuing your safe routine. Allow yourself to think about this “fire from heaven.” What are your dreams and how can you shift your thinking habits to match your dreams? Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem. Give your personal dreams a place to hang out so that you can see them in your imagination and they can soak up the energy they deserve. Thoughts are mental energy; they’re the currency that you have to attract what you desire. Learn to stop spending that currency on thoughts you don’t want. Your body might continue, for a while, to stay where it’s been trained to be, but meanwhile, your thoughts are being aligned with your dreams. Align your inner creative energy—your thoughts—so that they match up perfectly with your desires. Dream and you shall become.

Dr. Larry's "The Ripple Effect"

Today we have another great post from Dr. Larry Markson that discusses the unexpected effects that small acts of kindness can have.  This is just a great reminder of how important every day can be.  The Ripple Effect Your thoughts and actions are like stones dropped into still waters causing ripples to spread as they move outward. In a world of six billion people, it’s easy to believe that the only way to initiate profound transformation is to take extreme action. Each of us, however, carries within us the capacity to change the world in small ways for better or worse. Everything we do and think affects the people in our lives, and their reactions in turn affect others. As the effect of a seemingly insignificant word passes from person to person, its impact grows and can become a source of great joy, inspiration, anxiety, or pain. Your thoughts and actions are like stones dropped into still waters, causing ripples to spread and expand as they move outward. The impact you have on the world is greater than you could ever imagine, and the choices you make can have far-reaching consequences. You can use the ripple effect to make a positive difference and spread waves of kindness that will wash over the world. Should the opportunity arise, the recipient of a good deed will likely feel compelled to do a good deed for someone else. Someone feeling the effects of negative energy will be more likely to pass on that negative energy. One act of charity, one thoughtful deed, or even one positive thought can pass from individual to individual, snowballing until it becomes a group movement or the ray of hope that saves someone’s life. Every transformation, just like every ripple, has a point of origin. You must believe in your ability to be that point of origin if you want to use the ripples you create to spread goodness. Consider the effect of your thoughts and actions, and try to act graciously as much as possible. A smile directed at a stranger, a compliment given to a friend, an attitude of laughter, or a thoughtful gesture can send ripples that spread among your loved ones and associates, out into your community, and finally throughout the world. You have the power to touch the lives of everyone you come into contact with and everyone those people come into contact with. The momentum of your influence will grow as your ripples moves onward and outward. One of those ripples could become a tidal wave of positivity.

Please visit Dr. Larry's website www.thecabinexperience.com for more information.

Dr. Larry's "A Good Turn Daily"

This week's article is from Dr. Larry Markson.  He discusses the power within each of us to make a true difference.  He stresses the importance of positive thoughts, which is really where it all begins.

A Good Turn Daily

We can all vow to make the world a better place one day at a time by being our true authentic selves.

Each of us is more than capable of helping the world, despite our fears and limitations and the uncertainty that holds us back. It is commonly accepted that it is impossible to make a difference without unlimited funding or free time, yet most healing, cleansing, and spreading of joy is accomplished in a matter of minutes.

If we vow to make the world a better place one day at a time, the true significance of small good deeds reveals itself to us. We come to see that we can be of service without dedicating our lives to recognized charities or giving up the pleasures we enjoy. The warmth we feel when we help the world is only a tiny part of the affirmative transformations that take place when we make altruism a part of everyday existence.

We make our homes, workplaces, communities, and countries better and brighter when we think positive thoughts that echo outward, give donations of time or money, smile at everyone we meet, and lend those in need of aid our assistance. As we learn, we inadvertently improve the universe because we can only be truly involved when we are informed.

Even enthusiastically sharing ideas with others generates positive energy that then serves as the motivation for more tangible change. Selfless and helpful deeds remind us that we exercise some degree of control over a world that can seem chaotic at times. Even the smallest of such deeds is a demonstration of the fact that we are capable of changing the world in a positive way.

So much negative energy is generated by the suffering, pain, and close-mindedness we are regularly exposed to, but we can counteract it in a constructive way by thinking and acting altruistically when opportunities to do so arise.

Helping the world often takes no more than a moment, just a wish for the world is a beautiful gesture and can be done by even the busiest of people effortlessly. The gift you give each day need not be grand or attention-worthy because the broader benefits are the same no matter the literal repercussions.

Once a day, you can affect reality, and you can reap the rewards of knowing that you are making the world a better place, day by day.

For more information, please see Dr. Larry's website: http://www.thecabinexperience.com/viewarticle.asp?id=274

Dr. Sandra's "Are You Living the 100 Year Lifestyle?"

This week, we have a great post from Dr. Sandra Tremblay, from Alamo Heights Chiropractic in San Antonio, Texas.  She discusses the 100 year lifestyle, which includes exercise, nutrition, and spirituality.  (You're in for a treat!)

"Are You Living the 100 Year Lifestyle?"

by Sandra Carrell Tremblay, D.C.

Studies say that the fastest growing segment of our population are centenarians. The number of 100 year old people worldwide is expected to grow by 746% between now and 2040. - US Census Bureau. 50% of babies born since 2000 are expected to live to 100. - British Medical Journal. Is it possible to live to 100 and be healthy?

That is a great question. To be healthy, you must be well, and to be well, you must know what that means. Merriam-Webster says that well-ness is the quality or state of being in good health especially as an actively sought goal. Dr. Eric Plasker, the author of 'The Hundred Year Lifestyle' franchise says that you must focus on your ESS. You must have good Endurance to live a long and healthy life. Participate regularly in an activities such as run/walking, racquetball, tennis or biking. These type of cardiovascular exercises take care of your heart and can be monitored using a heart rate monitor where you can focus on functioning in your target heart zone.

Strength training like Pilates, Yoga and lifting weights help you stay physically strong and active and allow you to maintain a youthful set of physical activities. Structure or having a strong core and spine is vital for functioning well throughout your life. Deteriorated posture equals diminished health. Don't let this happen to you. Keep your brain body communication functioning in top performance. Don't wait to get your spine checked when you already feel bad. Be proactive with your wellness care.

The Blue Zones book, written by Dan Buettner                        

and published by National Geographic studied the few areas in the world where the largest healthy over 100 year old populations of people living healthy live. Their 'Power 9®' lessons show you how they do it. It is no special trick. These lessons emphasize making changes to your environment that will influence your habits.

Move Naturally - Gain 4 Years

1. Just Move Rather than joining a gym, they live in environments that constantly nudge them into moving without thinking about it. They live in places where they can walk to the store, friend's homes or places of worship, take the stairs and garden. Right Outlook - Gain 4 Years              

2. Purpose Now Knowing your sense of purpose is worth up to seven years of extra life expectancy. The Okinawans call it "ikigai" and the Nicoyans call it "plan de vida;" for both it translates to "why I wake up in the morning." Be able to articulate your likes, values, passions, gifts and talents. Put your skills into action.            

3. Down Shift Even people in the Blue Zones experience stress, which leads to chronic inflammation and is associated with every major age-related disease. Okinawans take a few moments each day to remember their ancestors, Adventists pray, Ikarians take a nap and Sardinians do happy hour. They practice shedding stress.

Eat Wisely - Gain 8 Years

4. 80% Rule "Hara hachi bu" - the Okianawan, 2500-year old Confucian mantra said before meals reminds them to stop eating when their stomach is 80 percent full. The 20% gap between not being hungry and feeling full could be the difference between losing weight or gaining it. Replace your big dishes with 10" plates. No TV during dinner. They eat their smallest meal in the late afternoon or early evening and nothing after. What a concept!

5. Plant Slant Eat small amounts of the leanest, finest meat you can afford. Beans, including fava, black and soy and lentils are the cornerstone of most centenarian diets. Snacking on nuts-about a handful a day has been associated with and extra 2-3 years of life expectancy.

6. Wine @ 5 Moderate drinkers outlive non-drinkers. The trick is to drink 1-2 drinks per day (preferably Sardinian Cannonau wine), with friends and/or with food.

Connect - Gain 4 Years

7. Belong All but five of the 263 centenarians interviewed belonged to some faith-based community. It doesn't matter if you're Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Jewish or some other religion that meets as a community. Research shows that attending faith-based services four times per month will add 4-14 years of life expectancy.

8. Loved Ones First Put your family first. This means keeping your aging parents and grandparents nearby or in your home. (It lowers disease and mortality rates of children in the home too.) Work on being in a positive, committed relationship (which can add up to 3 years of life expectancy) and invest in your children with time and love. (They'll be more likely to care for you when the time comes.)

9. Right Tribe The world's longest lived people chose-or were born into-social circles that supported healthy behaviors, Okinawans created "moais"-groups of five friends that committed to each other for life. Research from the Framingham Studies show that smoking, obesity, happiness, and even loneliness is contagious. Assessing who you hang out with, and then proactively surrounding yourself with the right friends, will do more to add years to your life than just about anything else.

These are the concepts of a true wellness lifestyle. Notice, these experts didn't say you can take a pill and make your life better. Instead, the concepts mentioned are all purposeful daily steps that focus on what is really important to our bodies, mind and soul. Yes, it will take a little time to re-order our daily routine, but do it. Do it for yourself, your family, your future and for a better society for us all.

Dr. Wayne Dyer's "Bend, Don't Break, with the Wind"

Have you ever had a situation that felt like it was too much for you to handle?  Dr. Wayne gives some great advice for that exact case.  Instead of letting it break you, be flexible instead.

Bend, Don’t Break, with the Wind

by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Having lived by the ocean for many years, I’ve observed the strength and beauty of the tall palm trees that grow at the water’s edge. These stately giants are able to withstand the hurricane-force winds that uproot and destroy many larger, older, and more majestic trees. What is the palm trees’ secret to staying in one piece through huge, devastating storms? They bend almost down to the ground at times, and it’s that ability that allows them to survive. The Tao invites us, too, to be resilient, elastic, and pliant when we face the powerful winds that are part of life. When destructive energy comes along, allow yourself to resist brokenness by bending. Look for times when you can make the choice to weather a storm by allowing it to blow through without resistance. How does this work? Be willing to adapt to whatever may come your way by initially allowing yourself to experience that potentially destructive energy, much like the bending tree in the hurricane. When criticism comes, listen. When powerful forces push you in any direction, bow rather than fight, lean rather than break, and allow yourself to be free from a rigid set of rules—in doing so, you’ll be preserved and unbroken. Keep an inner vision of the wind symbolizing difficult situations as you affirm: I have no rigidity within me. I can bend to any wind and remain unbroken. I will use the strength of the wind to make me even stronger and better preserved.

Namaste,

Wayne

Dr. Larry's "Starting New"

Here's a great article from Dr. Larry that discusses the power of the feeling of 'new.'  He talks about the importance of starting something new or even making a conscious mental shift to start the day anew. Starting New Starting something new allows us to choose to reset knowing that with each choice we learn, grow, and move forward. There are times in our lives that lend themselves to starting something new. The beginning of a new year, finishing school, leaving a job, or changing homes—these all are times that turn our minds to fresh starts. Their advantage is that they bring with them the energy of that event, creating a tide of change around them that we can ride to our next shoreline. But we can choose to start anew anytime. In any moment we can decide that a bad day or a relationship that’s gotten off on the wrong foot can be started again. It is a mental shift that allows us to clean the slate and approach anything with fresh eyes, and we can make that choice at any time. Starting new is most powerful when we focus our attention to what we are choosing to create. Giving all of our attention to the unwanted aspects of our lives allows what we resist to persist. We need to remember to leave enough room in the process of new beginnings to be kind to ourselves, because it takes time to become accustomed to anything new, no matter how much we like it. There is no need to get down on ourselves if we don’t reach our new goals instantly. Instead, we acknowledge the forward motion and choose to reset and start again, knowing that with each choice we learn, grow, and move forward. Making the choice to start anew has its own energy—it’s a promise made to you. The forward momentum creates a sort of vacuum behind it, pulling toward you all you need to help you continue moving in your chosen direction. Once the journey has begun, it may take unexpected turns, but it never really ends. Like cycles in nature, there are periods of obvious growth and periods of dormancy that signal a time of waiting for the right moment to burst forth. Each time we choose to start anew we dedicate ourselves to becoming the best we are able to be.

Please visit Dr. Larry's website www.thecabinexperience.com for more information

Dr. Wayne Dyer's "No Mountain Too High"

If you're feeling overwhelmed, this post can be a great pick-me-up.  Dr. Wayne explains that we need to keep in mind that we are always strong enough.

No Mountain Too High

by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Are there any life problems that seem beyond our power to overcome? Let’s think about that for a minute. In the face of life-threatening problems like alcoholism and drug addiction, excuses for feeling powerless like “It’s too difficult,” “It’s too big,” and “I’m not strong enough,” might spring to mind. Yet we know people who have beaten even these deadly and crippling problems. Two years ago, I had dinner in New York with Patti Davis, daughter of President Ronald Reagan and Nancy Reagan. Patti had just published an essay on Newsweek’s “My Turn” page about her struggle with cocaine addiction and how grateful she would have been for the rehabilitation programs that celebrities today so often treat with utter disrespect. It’s one of the most honest essays I’ve ever read. At our dinner, Patti was celebrating five years of freedom from drugs. She acknowledged how powerful the comfort and pleasure of cocaine had been in her life, but she knew she would never go back to using it. How did she manage to stop? It wasn’t a reluctance to continue disappointing herself or her parents that finally made the difference. She stopped because she no longer wanted to disappoint God, that highest part of herself that all of us share as our connection to the Divine. We all have a place of well-being, bliss, joy, and perfection within us. We are called to be there and from that empowering place we can reach out as Patti has done to help others find it, too. With God, nothing is impossible, and when we align with Spirit, no excuses are needed.

Namaste,

Wayne

Dr. Larry's "Giving Excuses"

Have you ever been asked to an event that you really didn't want to attend?  And when you go, you and everyone around you is unhappy?  In the article below, Dr. Larry Markson explores the importance of honesty versus giving excuses and how it can lead to better lives and relationships.

Giving Excuses

When we offer nothing but excuses in our lives, we are not being honest with anybody, mostly ourselves.

Excuses may seem like rational reasons for us not to do something, but if we’re not careful we can allow them to keep us from reaching our goals. Too often we accept our excuses as reasons why we cannot accomplish what we set out to do, and instead of finding alternatives we give up.

But if we can be honest with ourselves and take responsibility for our choices, we will begin to notice that we no longer give excuses. When we keep our minds focused on our goals, we will find that excuses fade away in the light of our priorities, and issues become challenges that can help us become wiser and stronger.

Sometimes we may give others excuses rather than be fully honest. We may think it is kind to tell someone we are willing to do something with them, whether work or play, but then keep putting them off. This diverts our energy into keeping the truth at a distance while continuing a falsehood.

But when we can take responsibility for our feelings and express them honestly, but gently, the other person is free to find someone who is better suited to accompany them while we are free to pursue the things we like. When we can do this, our energy can be invested in building better lives and relationships.

There’s another way in which excuses rob us of energy—and that is in the power of our thoughts and words. If we find ourselves in a situation, for example, where we are being asked for a financial contribution but we use the excuse that we can’t afford it, we create and attract lack and limitation into our lives.

The same goes for seemingly simple things like pretending to not feel well or any other false statement. We may think that excuses make things easier, but they complicate matters with smokescreens. When we can commit to our priorities, take responsibility for our choices, and communicate them honestly to others, there will be no need to make excuses, and we will have much more energy to dedicate to all the things we love.

For more information, please see Dr. Larry's website: http://www.thecabinexperience.com/viewarticle.asp?id=272

Dr. Wayne Dyer's "Share What You Love"

This week, Dr. Wayne explores the importance of sharing and how it can have a huge impact in the lives of others.

Share What You Love

by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

As I was driving my daughter Sommer to the airport for her return to college after a long weekend home, she was admiring my new watch. This was the first new timepiece I’d had in at least a decade. I really enjoyed looking at its shiny steel-and-black face, and as I did, I’d think about how this was my favorite watch of all time. Yet I knew in my heart that Sommer would love to wear it, since men’s watches seemed to be the current craze for young women.

As I dropped her off at the curb and assisted her with her luggage, I was prompted to remove the watch and give it to her, even though it was my most prized possession (particularly since I have almost no possessions any longer that I even care about, let alone prize).

Sommer’s response was, “No, Dad, you love this watch!”

I insisted, telling her that I’d feel greater joy by giving it to her and knowing she’d treasure it. I also felt that it would symbolize our staying together in time, even though we’d be thousands of miles apart. She boarded her plane glowing, and I left feeling that I had grown immeasurably as a person, since such a compassionate act would have been very difficult, if not impossible, for me several years ago.

Sommer called me in Maui a few months later to tell me that she was sending me a present, stressing that it was a very, very special gift. It turned out to be her all-time favorite painting that she’d created and had hung in her apartment for a long time. As she told me later: “I really learned something the day you gave me your beloved watch, and I wanted to give you something that’s my single most precious item. I’m giving it to you, Dad, even though it’s difficult to part with, because I want you to have a piece of me that I love with you.”

The painting hangs proudly on my wall as a symbol of the beauty and perfection of reaching out compassionately in response to a felt moment. By being and living compassion, you invite and encourage others, just by your example, to choose to do the same.

Namaste,

Wayne

Dr. Larry's "I am Thankful"

This week we have another great post from Dr. Larry Markson about the importance of thankfulness and how making a list of things for which we are thankful can have a huge positive impact in our lives.

I Am Thankful

As a practice management and personal development coach for all these many years, it has become the norm for me to listen to the “What’s Wrong” or “What Is Not Working List” of clients and even friends.  It seems that in the real world, the 80% that I always allude to (average people thinking average thoughts and getting average results), love to speak about their problems and issues, about what is broken, about what they “need” to do to fix the situations they find themselves embroiled in and about the pain and confusion that lives within.

The squeaky wheel always seems to get the attention and very few (20%) really spend any time giving thanks for all the things that are going right in their lives, the blessings they have been given, and they pay little attention to the vast majority of what is going great for them.

People complain by habit, they mimic the negative talking heads on TV and articles from the newspapers that generally have nothing good to say – after all “positive” does not sell newspapers.  And, sadly, this habit spills over as they complain about themselves, their marriages, their kids, their businesses or practices, their financial condition, their age – whatever.

The constant barrage of negative self-talk only attracts what they say they do not want, when in reality you get what you set and what you program by repetition does happens to you.

Most importantly, I have discovered that no one really cares.  So, shhhhhhhhhh!  Can it!  Stop complaining!  Quit programming your mind in ways that create pain and defeat in your life.

Better yet, do what I do.  Make a list of the things you are happy and grateful for.  Force yourself to concentrate on all the good you have and relegate everything else to the back burner to be referenced and cured when you get serious about paying the price for being successful, happy, health and fulfilled.

Here is part of my list:  Notice that I always begin with the statement, “I AM THANKFUL FOR.”

I am thankful for my health, my ability to make decisions easily and quickly, my determination to confront anyone about anything, my action orientation, my creativity and positive outlook, the concepts and visions that appear in my mind, my limitless energy and the understanding that, “It IS all in my head,”

I am thankful for my family, my wife, children and grandchildren, my relatives (as strange as they are), the circle of life-long friends who return my love, the vast number of additional friendships that fill my social calendar to overflowing.

I am thankful for the hundreds of employees who were part of my teams and the thousands of patients, clients and members who believed in me and even credited me with helping to change their lives, practices or businesses for the better.

I am thankful for the Chiropractic Profession, as unique and misunderstood that it is.  I loved being a practicing Doctor of Chiropractic and a Chiropractic Practice Management Consultant and now I love being the facilitator of The Cabin Experience and the member of the Board of Trustees of Life University.

I am thankful that my mother didn’t suffer with pain before she passed last week.  I am thankful that my grandchildren call me Pop Pop with eyes that convey unconditional love.

I am thankful for my extremely beautiful back yard, with my favorite chair positioned just right for me to see the magnificent colors of the huge array of flowers that bear every color of the rainbow.  It is a place of tranquility a peace for me.

I am thankful for the abundance in my life and I am thankful for YOU – for to me YOU are what it is really all about!

For more information, check out Dr. Larry's website: http://www.thecabinexperience.com/viewarticle.asp?id=271

Dr. Wayne Dyer's "Success Secrets"

This week we have a great, short post from Dr. Wayne Dyer.  He discusses one of his tricks to success, his mental attitude and outlook.  This might be a short article, but it is a special one!

Success Secrets

by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

One of my secrets for feeling successful and attracting bountiful abundance into my life has been an internal axiom that I use virtually every day of my life. It goes like this: Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change. This has always worked for me.

The truth of this little maxim is actually found in the field of quantum physics, which, according to some, is a subject that’s not only stranger than you think it is, it’s stranger than you can think. It turns out that at the tiniest subatomic level, the actual act of observing a particle changes the particle. The way we observe these infinitely small building blocks of life is a determining factor in what they ultimately become. If we extend this metaphor to larger and larger particles and begin to see ourselves as particles in a larger body called humanity or even larger—life itself—then it’s not such a huge stretch to imagine that the way we observe the world we live in affects that world.

Think of this little journey into quantum physics as a metaphor for your life. Your feelings of success and your experience of prosperity and abundance depend on your positive view of yourself, your life, and the Universe from which success and abundance come. Changing the way you look at things is an extremely powerful tool. Start by examining how you look at things. Is the Universe matching your way of looking?

Namaste,

Wayne